Attachment and Loss ...2013

Attachment and Loss …2013

"Roots of Attachment"Loss and Attachment…

Years ago, a very astute clinical social worker made this simple statement at one of my supervision sessions…”life is a series of attachments and losses” and it is important how we form attachments and how we deal with eventual losses.

The year 2013 has come to a close and along with it some life moments of attachment and loss.

Family attachments are really my most important and this year we welcomed my daughter’s fiancé into our family. We give him our love and support and wish the very best to them as a couple for a long, happy and healthy future.

Together as a family, we are stronger than the sum of the individuals. Helping and supporting each other to the best of our ability given distance and our own separate lives is something we try to never forget.

Attachment at work.

My granddaughter still continues to amaze me. I anxiously look forward to sharing her “firsts” during 2014.

I love looking through her eyes as she welcomes new experiences. It brings back memories of my own childhood as well as those of my own children’s experiences.

Friends are dear to me and during 2013 our family lost one of our nearest and dearest.

It is a loss that we are still grieving. It will be a year of “magical thinking” as we go through firsts without him. His family suffers most and this is so hard to witness. They are grieving the loss of the deepest attachment, a father and a husband.

The year 2013 has brought me into contact with many new “virtual friends” and social media has kept me in touch with many old attachments. I love blogging and FB for this reason. It allows me to share with those that live across the country on a daily basis…even if it is just a simple photo. I love seeing the mundane as well as the fantastic.

After all isn’t the mundane what it is mostly about as we age?

I feel like I have just rambled but after two weeks of holiday…at home with a five year old it is where my mind is at…we have all been nursing varying degrees of winter illnesses and a severe bout of “cabin fever”.

Today…it is 24F and perhaps we will venture outside…if only to prepare for subzero deep freeze and the snow that is promised for tonight.

4 thoughts on “Attachment and Loss …2013

  1. This posting is so poignant. Yes, love and loss sums up most of life’s experiences. Congratulations on the new addition to your family, and I look forward to your observations and comments in 2014!

    • Thanks Saralyn, I hope this year is full of new things for you and “Naughty Nana”. I am looking forward to getting my hard copy so I can read it to my granddaughter. Much love and Happy New Year!

  2. Lorette, this was such a beautiful and poignant post — one on which I’ve been reflecting quite a bit. I never quite thought of life as a series of “attachments and losses” but now that I see it in print, it makes perfect sense.
    I’m thrilled that one of our attachments is our social media friendship 🙂 All the best to you and your family in the new year ahead.
    -Lisa

    • Lisa, I too feel fortunate to have met you on social media. It is just amazing to me how many people I have met around the world…we all seem attached somehow. I look forward to seeing you this year when our paths cross at a few meetings in the meantime it is delightful reading your posts on FB and @momalamode. Please stay in touch and have a happy new year!

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