Car seat safety….

CAR SEAT SAFETY

 

“Child seat safety inspectors

We all know that it’s important to have our children in car seats while driving in the car.  But did you know that, according to a National Highway Traffic Safety Administration study, nearly three out of four child seats are installed or used incorrectly? Those are seriously unsafe numbers!”

via News Moms Need » Blog Archive » Child seat safety inspectors.

I cannot think of  more important items than child car seats…please use them all the time.

Stylish and pregnant…yes you can…

Pregnancy and style can actually appear in the same sentence.

I know this sounds like a no win situation but if you plan it right you can look good throughout pregnancy.

Gone are the days when moms-to-be wore huge T-shirts with an arrow pointing downward at the word BABY as if anyone could not figure it out. The styles today are really somewhat friendly to the pregnant woman.

Some of the things that are musts are a great pair of leggings, a good pair of maternity jeans and tops from your favorite designers perhaps in a larger size. Careful not to over buy and just mix and match…white shirts are always great and topped with a wonderful long scarf will make anyone feel dressed for work or going out. A splash of color in the scarf category goes a long way especially on dreary days or days that you simply feel dreary.

Shoes should be comfortable, but heels are not out if that is what you enjoy wearing…just be careful as your center of gravity changes later on in the pregnancy. Winter makes boots totally welcome especially with so much snow around. But even without the elements enjoy the wonderful boots of the season.

Now if you are always hot layering is definitely something you will want to consider. Long lighter sweaters seem to fit this situation. Blazers, even borrowed from your man’s closet can look good and don’t forget to look at some of his shirts in a pinch.

Coats for winter are another story. They can be expensive and “ugly”…try to look for sales and maybe do with a size larger. Some pre-planning ahead here is a good idea so that you are not stuck with something that you really hate.

Think about looking your best… get your hair styled …hair usually thickens during pregnancy so enjoy it…get some new lip colors and don’t forget moisturizer and blush. Again a splash of bronzer or color can give you a lift.

I recommend a pedicure as well…about once a month if you can do it. Nothing feels better than someone massaging your tired feet.

Remember pregnancy is in trimesters so each trimester make the adjustments that will make you feel good all over…take a trip to H&M and Zara’s as well as the make-up counter.

If you want a stylist’s guide, check out Amy Tara Koch’s book and blog…“Bump It UP

Remember: You are preparing yourself for your baby’s birthday and want to look and feel your best.

Children’s Art…the dilemma.

Kids Art….

 

 

“WHY hang children’s art on the refrigerator door? Because it’s there. And as an exhibition venue, it’s better than nothing.”

A coffee-table book from blurb.com by Arlene Kriv’s son, Eli Jort. More Photos »

“Art is made to be seen,” said David Burton, a professor of art education at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond. “It’s sort of like food: why would you go through the trouble of cooking a whole meal and then not eat it?”

via Ideas for Displaying Children’s Art – NYTimes.com.

This was always a dilemma for me when I had more children’s art in my kitchen than I knew what to do with.

Digital photography has changed many things and saving children’s art can now be done with the click of your camera.

But is that enough???

Probably not….

I am rethinking the refrigerator art now that I have a grandchild.

We view things differently as grandparents…I am not exactly sure why that it…but it sure is wonderful.

So bring on the art projects…

 

Caucasian fathers are superior….really?? REVISITED

Noteworthy Wednesday!

This is my most read post in 2011…since “Tiger Mom” is now published in paperback and it is the one year anniversary of the commotion that it set off I am reposting this for you perusal.

Enjoy.

Why Caucasian fathers are superior.

“So it should come as no surprise that I am better at parenting than most humans (and all animals, except bison and unicorns). The reason? I’m a Caucasian male.

The Caucasian culture does not accept mediocrity. You name it, we excel at it. Whether it’s playing hockey, or watching hockey, or dancing (the polka), or finishing last in 100-metre races, or suppressing the civil rights of minorities, Caucasian males do it best. We also raise the brightest children.”

Seriously, this is such an amusing piece that responds to the “Tiger Mom”  uproar. I thought we had read just about everything but apparently not so.

Given all the commotion that Tiger Mom has generated, I think that it is time to consider some balance. Parenting is something that is too important to actually laugh about.

It seems there are as many beliefs about the right way to parent as there are parents. It is my belief that anything taken to extremes is never really a good thing. There are exceptions to almost any “rule”. To be excessively rigid in your parenting style could pass this rigidity on to your child or create the opposite stance on your child’s part. Neither of these responses is what I personally would want.

There are many aspects of attachment parenting that I like and I probably was an attached parent and am an attached grandparent although I did not “co-sleep” nor did I breast feed.

My personal parenting guidelines came from Erik Erikson’s stages of development. I tried to parent so that my children successfully completed Erikson’s  stages of development.

I also tried to model behavior for my children. They experienced how important it was for both their grandmothers to die having completed their final stage of life at age 89. They both died with integrity and dignity.

Parenting never really ends.

For me, it is about teaching your children how to have love and empathy and be able to develop their own skills to live each stage of life.

With that said please read this “caucasian father’s” editorial reaction to “Tiger Mom” and laugh if you like…it is pretty humorous!

Vaccine controversy…history repeats itself…

DESPITE overwhelming evidence to the contrary, roughly one in five Americans believes that vaccines cause autism — a disturbing fact that will probably hold true even after the publication this month, in a British medical journal, of a report thoroughly debunking the 1998 paper that began the vaccine-autism scare.

That’s because the public’s underlying fear of vaccines goes much deeper than a single paper. Until officials realize that, and learn how to counter such deep-seated concerns, the paranoia — and the public-health risk it poses — will remain.

via A Century of Vaccine Scares – NYTimes.com.

Vaccines have always carried with them an underlying fear…what if you get the disease from the vaccine is a question I hear very often when the flu shot is offered every fall. ” Oh, the only time I got the flu is right after a flu shot…so I don’t want to get it again.”

For those of us in medicine and who work in hospitals the flu shot has become mandatory in recent years otherwise you cannot work. Only those with an allergy to eggs  or who have had a reaction to the flu shot in the past are exempt from getting the vaccine. With so many adults fearful of a flu shot, why is it that we are surprised when parents do not want their children vaccinated?

I am not quite sure.

As for my own history with vaccines…I can remember when the polio vaccine trials came out  in the 1950’s. It was being offered in public schools in New York. Many parents allowed their children to receive the vaccine at school.

My mother however, did not go along with mass inoculation trials at school. I personally remember the chatter among family in our living room. Most of it centered around whether or not the vaccine was safe. “What if you could actually get polio from the vaccine?” Polio could be deadly or severely crippling. My mother wanted to wait and see for herself.

“The report”, wrote the New York Times, “was a medical classic.” Dr. Francis reported that the vaccinations had been 80 to 90 percent effective on the basis of results in eleven states. Overall, the vaccine was administered to over 440,000 children in forty-four states, three Canadian provinces and in Helsinki, Finland,[3] and the final report required the evaluation of 144,000,000 separate items of information. After the announcement, when asked whether the effectiveness of the vaccine could be improved, Salk said, “Theoretically, the new 1955 vaccines and vaccination procedures may lead to 100 percent protection from paralysis of all those vaccinated.”[18]

via Jonas Salk – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

When it seemed that all was safe…I received the polio vaccine at my pediatrician’s office.

So with a history of fear surrounding vaccines there is no wonder that parents are nervous when it comes to the relationship of autism and vaccines. This fear will not easily be put to rest…but parents must be judicious and not expose their children to other deadly diseases if there is not a valid connection between vaccines and autism.

With the new findings concerning the study of MMR vaccine and autism it seems that this fear should be put to rest…however it may be very difficult for that to happen since the public has been duped once by medical researchers in this case and now they may be fearful for another reason, unethical behavior on the part of researchers.

So who are parents supposed to believe?

It is my feeling that because there has been a long time with out an outbreak of some of these very serious and deadly illnesses parents have become somewhat cavalier about the actual need for all children to receive immunizations. Healthcare professionals need to do their homework and talk to parents about childhood immunizations before we do succumb to another epidemic of one of these horrible diseases.

Is “Tiger Mom” a Wimp?

Amy Chua Is a Wimp – NYTimes.com.

“Sometime early last week, a large slice of educated America decided that Amy Chua is a menace to society. Chua, as you probably know, is the Yale professor who has written a bracing critique of what she considers the weak, cuddling American parenting style.”

David Brooks
Josh Haner/The New York Times

As a follow-up to the “Tiger Mom” posts, I want to share the thoughts of David Brooks, pictured above. He makes some solid comments with regard to this controversial mom’s memoir.

 

Pre-eclampsia…noteworthy news…

As a former Labor and Delivery nurse, I watched over many women who were “pre-eclamptic” and severely so.

Preeclampsia is a serious complication of pregnancy and can threaten the life of the mother and the fetus.

I was thrilled to read this news item from the “March of Dimes”.

Ironically, I now work with renal dialysis patients and this news was presented at the American Society of Nephrology conference.

Hopefully, preeclampsia predisposition will be detected very early and save many moms from this terrible complication.

Early urine test for preeclampsia

Research presented at the annual meeting of the American Society of Nephrology in November claimed that a simple measurement of key proteins in a urine test can detect preeclampsia in women during the early stages of pregnancy.

via News Moms Need » Blog Archive » Early urine test for preeclampsia.

“Slow Love Life”…not just another blog…

 

NOTEWORTHY WEDNESDAY!

Blog: Slow Love Life
Post: CHINESE TIGER MOMS? KITTENS COMPARED TO FRENCH MOTHERS. WHY ANY FEAR MODEL IS THE WRONG WAY TO GO, NO MATTER WHICH CULTURE DRIVES IT
Link: http://www.slowlovelife.com/2011/01/chinese-tiger-moms-kittens-compared-to.html

I love this blog and by now you are probably sick of hearing about the “Tiger Mom” on this blog and everywhere else. But I encourage you to read this piece and subscribe to “Slow Love Life” to enjoy some wonderful thoughtful writing.

It seems that this author’s experience somewhat parallels the “Chinese Parent” although her mother was French so it has a little different perspective.

There is some humor in realizing that children do not come with an “owner’s manual” so we try to do the best that we know how.

On a daily basis, I am amazed with the number of wonderful resources available to the parents of today. But, they are resources and parents need to tailor them to their child and their own experiences.

A child is a wonderful gift, unique in every way…