Do your children have Santa Claus for a grandparent?
Is there an overindulgent relative in your child’s life?
And do they disregard your requests about gift giving?
I am not quite sure how to handle this type of situation except to be very direct in your requests as a parent.
It seems that there are many parent ideas about what is appropriate when it comes to their children.
In some cases parents do not even agree with each other when it comes to defining what is “overindulgent”.
It seems that grandparents may be the biggest group of overindulgers when it comes to children, Christmas and Holidays. At least, that was the recent consensus of a group of parents discussing the holiday stresses at my grandchild’s preschool.
It seemed that the grandparents were not deterred by requests of their sons and daughters in their gift giving habits.
As a grandparent, I can understand both sides since I was also a parent of young I remember requesting certain things for my children and making suggestions to their grandparents. I guess I was lucky in that my husband agreed with this approach. So for the most part we did not get “stuff” that was inappropriate and not useful.
- Be honest about your feelings
- Have gift suggestions
- Perhaps suggest college fund donations, even small ones so as the kids get older and more appreciative of money as a gift, this might become a habit of their grandparents.
- Be thoughtful and respectful
- Be empathic and understanding that your relationship with your kids is different than your parents’ relationship with them which is what helps to drive the overindulgence.
- Be realistic if you have really difficult grandparents…and try to make the best of the situation.