Time-outs…Time-ins for children…

Time-outs and time-ins

Preschoolers are intensively learning rules and testing boundaries. That means yours may gleefully flout your directives and push the limits you impose whenever she gets the chance. And though a preschooler is much more capable of rational thought than a toddler, shes still ruled by her emotions, and can turn on a dime from a happy-go-lucky kid to a flailing, wailing wild thing.

via Time-outs: How to make them work ages 3 to 4 | BabyCenter.

We use time out at our house and usually it gives us all time to calm down. My little granddaughter usually responds to this method of behavior modification.

In fact, I use meditation…deep breathing time-outs when things get particularly hectic during the day.

So my suggestion would be to teach your child or grandchild how to quietly breathe whenever you get a quiet moment with them. My granddaughter shows an interest in yoga whenever she sees me practicing…so seize the opportunity to teach kids whenever you can.

Here is a summary about time-outs from Baby Center.

  • What is a time-out? It is not a punishment…but a time to modify  a child’s behavior, a time to get control again.
  • Time the time out One minute for each year so three minutes for a 3 year olds is what is recommended.
  • Make it a specific place for time-outs preferably one without any distractions but where you can observe them
  • Be consistent with what a child gets a time out for
  • Follow-up with a discussion about the behavior that caused the necessity of a time out.
  • Have time-ins for good behavior. Spend extra time with your child and tell him when is doing well.

Time-outs definitely have a place in behavior modification when used effectively within good guidelines they can help a child gain back his control and that is a good thing.

Kids menus …horrible!


Children’s diets are under the microscope and in my opinion should remain that way for some time. In many ways “we are what we eat” and our kids are what we feed them.

Oh yes… I am guilty of serving and eating “fast food” as well as “convenience foods”. Sometimes a burger from McDonald’s or Kraft’s Mac’n’Cheese just tastes good and fulfills a craving.

I  admit to  “grandparent” guilt when I take my granddaughter to McDonald’s for a “Happy Meal” and when she requests to make a stop at McDonald’s I actually cringe at what I have done to her taste buds.

Somehow, it makes me feel better if when we go out, we actually sit down in a restaurant and have a server…it seems much more relaxing and special. I enjoy sharing and she does too. But at times we fall prey to the Kid’s Menu because it’s just a kid’s kind of moment and the kiddy menu comes with crayons and characters and games printed on it.

And then… this week, I came across a post from Baby Center.

It was a discussion on Kid’s Menus...I was in shock!   Though, I have to say…I have never seen any nutritional info on a kid’s menu… but after reading the discussion from Baby Center…it is pretty obvious why the choice is made not to print this info on the menu. The information could make you sick!

Let’s face it, when we eat out we give up a lot of control…but I will look very carefully at a Kid’s Menu before ever ordering from one in the future.

Here is what was posted on Baby Center….

Outback Steakhouse    Kookaburra Chicken Fingers meal with Aussie Fries 1,030 calories 60 g fat  21 g saturated 2,052 mg sodium Fat equivalent: 12 Frosted Chocolate Fudge Pop-Tarts!

Olive Garden Fettuccini Alfredo kids meal 800 calories 48 g fat  30 g saturated 810 mg sodium Saturated fat equivalent: 1.5 full jars of Nutella!

Applebee’s Grilled Cheese with French fries 1,020 calories 54 g fat  17 g saturated 2,170 mg sodium Calorie equivalent: 400 Cheddar Goldfish Crackers. That’s 1.3 full bags!

via Restaurant kid menus: awesome or awful? | BabyCenter.