Sleep like a baby but not when you have a baby!
Sleep has become an obsession since the last trimester of pregnancy according to my daughter, who now has a three month old.
Tired is how she describes herself
Fortunately my grandson is a decent sleeper and has been since about 5 weeks old.
Some how that does not ease the new parent fatigue…feeding, diaper changing, napping, feeding, changing, tummy time…more feeding and changing.
It seems that rest escapes many parents from the birthday of their first baby.
I wish I could say that this changes as baby gets older…
It does not get better
At times It actually gets worse
randomly waxing and waning.
Here is how sleep goes…
- Sleep becomes difficult during the third trimester of pregnancy, probably to get you ready for the parenting road ahead.
- After the baby is born, you will initially be up peeing and then feeding and changing your newborn every 2 to 4 hours. It will seem like a never ending cycle.
Sleep deprivation really begins to take hold now so you might as well get used to it.
- If you go to bed late because you want to watch a movie or even read a book that will definitely be the night your little one (no matter the age) will wake up screaming for whatever reason at around 3 am.
- Have no fear the teen years provide no relief because then you will be worrying about your kids being out till curfew or later.
You might as well face it you might sleep again when your kids go to college
It is a plus for the “empty nest”.
Many have traveled this foggy road of sleep deprivation which is little consolation.
What are some of the ways you deal with sleep deprivation?
Do you have empathy for sleep deprived parents?
Links of the week:
Druckerman can talk all she wants about the Pause, and Le cadre (the frame), and the strict adherence to meal times, but the main difference between French and American mothers is culture.
It’s not that French moms are doing everything right, but that they believe they are.
via Why Sleep Matters to Babies and Parents | Science of Mom.
Yes, sleep deprivation is a normal part of parenting. But when babies and parents suffer from chronic sleep deprivation, we need to be seriously concerned. Babies need sleep to support healthy development. Parents need sleep to maintain sanity. Sleep is a universal human need.
via Affluent Foreign-Born Parents in N.Y. Prefer Public Schools – NYTimes.com.
Miriam and Christian Rengier, a German couple moving to New York, visited some private elementary schools in Manhattan last spring in search of a place for their son. They immediately noticed the absence of ethnic diversity, and the chauffeurs ferrying children to the door.
Happy Friday…Have a great weekend!
Postpartum depression is a serious problem that can occur after having a baby…it can occur up to one year after delivery. Sometimes the signs and symptoms can just be an overall sense of anxiety and an inability to enjoy your baby. As a new mom if you just don’t feel happy you can attribute it to many things especially lack of sleep and the many changes occurring over such a short period of time but you could be suffering from postpartum depression (PPD).
Personally, I did not experience PPD but there were days when I did not feel in control of all the responsibilities of motherhood. It was positively overwhelming. Back in the day…postpartum depression was somewhat overlooked and under treated. A new mom was made to feel like she “just had to suck it up” and get it together. Fortunately, since them that attitude has changed and most obstetricians screen for PPD at the time of the postpartum check-up.
I thought that I would post a list of symptoms of postpartum depression. If you have more than one or two of these symptoms or are feeling generally depressed for more than two weeks you should check in with your doctor.
The symptoms of postpartum depression are the same as the symptoms of depression that occurs at other times in life. Along with a sad or depressed mood, you may have some of the following symptoms:
- Agitation or irritability
- Changes in appetite
- Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
- Feeling withdrawn or unconnected
- Lack of pleasure or interest in most or all activities
- Loss of concentration
- Loss of energy
- Problems doing tasks at home or work
- Negative feelings toward the baby
- Significant anxiety
- Thoughts of death or suicide
- Trouble sleeping
A mother with postpartum depression may also:
- Be unable to care for herself or her baby
- Be afraid to be alone with her baby
- Have negative feelings toward the baby or even think about harming the baby Although these feelings are scary, they are almost never acted on. Still you should tell your doctor about them right away.
- Worry intensely about the baby, or have little interest in the baby
via Postpartum depression – PubMed Health.