# Sandy…

NYC #Sandy

This has been a week that will go down in history because of a storm named Sandy!

As a native New Yorker, I am saddened beyond words for those who are suffering in New York and New Jersey. Some have lost everything. Their homes have been ruined by flooding and wind, others have lost their homes to fire like those families in Breezy Point, Queens.

Right now the news is reporting, 44,000,000 million people are without power due to Sandy. Power loss has a ripple effect, no heat, no hot water, no lights…life as many people knew it prior to Sandy will never be the same.

Some of my blogger friends are New Yorkers…they are moms with small children, who, over the past week have had their entire lives disrupted. Some were preparing to evacuate their apartments this time last week, they went to hotels which eventually lost power…their kids could not quite understand all that was going on around them… their parents had to remain calm on the outside despite being terrified on the inside. Many children slept through the storm surge to wake up to a New York City ravaged and forever changed…

Early Tuesday morning I, personally answered a tweet from a NYC mom living in Battery Park City…she asked if anyone knew what was going on outside. She had no other means of communication so it was difficult for her to find out that the neighborhood where she lived was impassable on many streets but the surge had in fact passed and thankfully the water was receeding leaving devastation behind. I told her in 140 characters what I had just witnessed in a report from Chris Cuomo on GMA…there was so much to tell her but it was good I was limited by Twitter. She thanked me and I sent her my good thoughts from my home here in Chicago…where I was safe and sound. This little tweet made me feel that I was able to help someone, so far away yet so close to my heart.

I have been following another young mom with three little ones who had to evacuate southern Manhattan. She is now back in their apartment but without power. From the sounds of her tweets she seems to be holding her own…although, I know she must be beyond the point of being overwhelmed…I wish I could hug and make dinner for her and her family. She continues out pictures and links which are sad to see but in person I cannot even imagine how she feels living in this huge city where some areas are totally dark at night and other areas are “business as usual”. But since she has no power and no television, she cannot see the Upper East Side functioning sometimes like nothing has happened. Oh Jess, this will pass but you are in the thick of it…hang in there as best you can. There has never been anything like this…how you and your family survive will go down in history as one of the 8 million stories in the asphalt jungle known as NYC.

One of the stories which blends horror and heroism is the evacuation of Langone New York University Medical Center on Monday night and then Bellevue Hospital on Wednesday.

I was once a nurse manager at NYU Medical Center and I can tell you that when it comes to reacting to emergencies they know what to do.

Firstly, years ago there was a strike of union hospital workers which left only managers, nurses and doctors working in the all NYC hospitals.  We went into emergency mode…all professionals banded together doing everything…from mopping delivery room floors to doctors giving cool baths to patients with fevers and managers running lab tests. It was survival and survive we did even though we knew that our nurse’s aides wanted to be by our sides rather than outside on a picket line but that is how unions effect change sometimes.

For a few days, it was fairly smooth going and then the union approved a contract and union workers returned to their jobs. We welcomed everyone back to work and nursing welcomed a salary increase along with those who went on strike…it is one of the benefits… at that time when union employees got a wage increase so did nursing.

The other emergency was  the “Blackout” in 1977, on a warm summer night during the terror reign of the Son of Sam,...it affected all of NYC.

Again at NYU Medical Center, we went into action, especially when one generator failed and we did not know if the other would last. It was a night of climbing 15 stories to the ICU and then running down to the 8th floor where women were in labor and back to 9 where babies were on ventilators. Everyone came together that night to maintain safety and calm in a situation which was anything but safe and calm.

In the morning, when I crossed First Avenue to my Kips Bay apartment building I was met by neighbors coming out of darkened stairwells with candles handing them off to those of us readying ourselves for the climb up in the dark.

New Yorkers have a way of coming together….I knew this but it was certainly driven home during my tenure at NYC Medical Center in the 70’s. We were a family within a family and nothing stopped us from caring for our patients who had put their trust in us.

Many years have passed and New York has since survived the unspeakable events of 9/11 and now New Yorkers are challenged again right to their core with Superstorm Sandy.

Sandy seems to have brought  New Yorkers to their knees…but out of the ashes (literally in some cases) they will rise, showing the world that they are survivors. They will come together and accept and welcome the helping hands from around the country and world.

As the water receeds, we will witness New York City come back better than ever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dilemma: “Halloween and Kids with Food Allergies”

As Halloween excitement heightens so can the anxiety of a parent whose child has a food allergy.

Kids with food allergies can feel left out when it comes to parties and activities such as Trick or Treating. With some simple preparation, parents can ease their own anxiety as well as the anxiety of their kids. Who would not want to lessen their child’s anxiety?

Years ago, when my own children were small…we were concerned about candy containing  pins and razor blades. My husband missed our daughter’s first Halloween because he was ex-raying candy at the local hospital, making sure it had no foreign objects in it.

Now it is a combined worry…tainted candy and candy containing food allergens. For contemporary parents, life has become complicated beyond the lives of their own parents.

Here are a few tips for a safe Halloween for children with food allergies.

Teach your child about allergies and Halloween

Chances are very good, you have already talked to your child about his/her food allergy. It may be a good idea to reinforce this information before Halloween and talk about the plan in place to keep them safe from a reaction to any candy. It might be good to tell them, all kids’ candy should be inspected before eating…it is not just because they have allergies that makes inspection necessary. This could help them feel that they are not being singled out because of their allergies.

Sort candy and treats at home

Set up a special place to sort all candy…one by one inspect it carefully for ingredients.

Have emergency medications handy

Have your meds handy while Trick or Treating,  just in case…better to be safe than sorry.

Switch Witch

You might want to adopt the “Switch Witch” in your home. Children pick out a few pieces of candy and leave the rest out overnight for the “Switch Witch,”  who will take it and leave them a present. This gets rid of all unwanted candy and usually makes kids happy to see it go.

 

 

 

 

 

Toast Tuesday….a day late!

I love the blog Weighty Matters written by Yoni Freedhoff…a physician…

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Family doc, Assistant Prof. at the University of Ottawa, and founder of Ottawa’s Bariatric Medical Institute – a multi-disciplinary, ethical, evidence-based nutrition and weight management centre. Nowadays I’m more likely to stop drugs than start them, and love going to work in the morning.

Sigh.

That’s exactly what I did when I opened the email that contained the photo up above (I think I may have swore too).

It was snapped just a few weeks ago in the London Children’s Museum where for reasons I can’t fathom they have a miniature McDonald’s set up for kids to play in. Here’s another shot that I found online:

via Weighty Matters: WTF? An Insane Parental “No” File from London’s Children’s Museum.

 

What do you think about having a miniature of McDonald’s for kids in your home or at a Children’s Museum?

Disclosure: We have an old miniature Mc Donald’s stand in our playroom…bought at a garage sale, complete with sounds of milkshake mixer and french fry maker. It is a favorite play toy in our house. Does that tell you anything about us as grandparents?

Toast Tuesday…

As a grandparent, I personally enjoy Grandparents.com. It provides some solid information from a grandparent perspective.

In my opinion, being a grandparent is one of the joys of life. Just when empty nesting is getting really boring along comes a “little one” to liven things up once again.

Empty nest was not something that I enjoyed…don’t get me wrong, I do like down time,,, but my home was always full, so when it was just me and my husband…well it was too quiet.

For more years of our marriage than not, we were a three generation home and we are somewhat that way again. I grew up in a three generation home, so history repeats itself. I never really knew any other life but my husband was from more of an Ozzie and Harriet home so it took some adjustment for him.

Looking back, I would not change anything. Although in the midst of it all, there were definitely some “Calgon” moments…for those of you who remember back in the day, …”Calgon” bath salts promised to “take women away” from the daily household turmoil.

If you are a grandparent…or not, you might enjoy the Grandparents.com website.

Take a look and let me know what you think!

Gail Saltz Q&A: “My Granddaughter Told Me She’s Gay. What Should I Say to Her? –Grandparents.com.

Do maternal grandparents have it better?

Like I said: Its complicated.

via Do Maternal Grandmothers Really Have It Better? – Grandparents.com.

 

Do maternal grandparents have it better…maybe, is all I have to say.

It truly depends on the relationship that a mom has with her daughter. If the relationship with your daughter is marginal then I believe the relationship with your grandchildren has a greater chance of being marginal. As a grandmother, you will have to make more of an effort at your relationship with your grandchildren as well.

Relationships are work…grandparent-grandchild relationships are no different in many ways than relationships with other relatives or friends.

Grandchildren should not, in my belief, have to “kowtow” to their grandparents. I have said this in other posts.

To me, it is nice to have grandchildren who respect you, but if you want to have them visit, call or talk to you, then you will have to be the engager.

Sorry to say, but I remember being really bored by my paternal grandparents…even though I loved them dearly…they just were not fun and to top it off, most of the time they spoke Italian which I did not understand. I remember thinking this was kind of rude.

Since my parents were divorced, my paternal grandparents were visited only on weekends with my dad. It was kind of an obligation of his and he brought me along for the ride.

Since I lived with my maternal grandmother, I loved her like she was my mother and sometimes, she was my “stand in” mother. She taught me to cook and do things around the house like ironing and making hospital corners on the beds. All girls need to know these things…Right?

Divorce or any rupture in a family does nothing to enhance the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. Of course, it does depend upon the age at which the rupture takes place and to how extensive is the animosity between father, mother and family members.

In these situations, grandparents may find it difficult for various reasons to remain in contact with their grandchildren, because of loyalty to their child, conflict with daughter-in-law or son-in-law and the trickle down effect that all of this has on the grandchild.

Even if there is a seemingly amicable situation, there will be unspoken feelings that a child may sense which will interfere with a developing relationship between them and their grandparents. Grandparents will have their work cut out for them in this family scenario. But hopefully the work will be worth it in the end.

Being a grandparent is the best thing that has happened to me. I cannot imagine any thing better. Being a mom was great and yes, I definitely had more energy but not more wisdom or patience…those I have acquired with age and life experience. For me, being the maternal grandmother has been a perk because I had and still have a good relationship with my daughter.

Do I have to walk on egg shells?… sometimes, certainly… will my relationship with my grandchild continue to be as wonderful as it currently is…well that will depend on me now won’t it?

 

 

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“Borrow Baby Couture”

Borrow Baby Couture | Rent Baby, Toddler, Kids, and Children Clothing..

 

Did you ever wish for a special dress for a special little one in your life….but you just did not want to make an extravagant purchase that might only be worn once or twice?

Well, now there is Borrow Baby Couture, where you can choose exactly what you want for that occasion where a beautiful dress is just the thing.

There are many designers from which to choose and Borrow Baby Couture has just added more to their inventory.

With the holiday season coming up, this could be just what you might consider rather than purchasing a dress that gets worn only once.

You can shop at home, and your dress will be delivered in a beautiful box like the one pictured below. You can even choose from new or slightly worn to save some money. Either way, I think you will be very happy when your couture dress arrives…ready to wear.

Borrow Baby Couture

 

Fendi Little Girl Couture

Here is the turquoise Fendi dress that I picked out for an occasion with our little one. She felt special and I was kvelling.

Fendi Turquoise Blue Dress

It was perfect in size and color. For a warm summer day, I could not have asked for a finer lightweight cotton…it actually reminded me of imported fabrics that I used to buy many years ago in New York when I enjoyed sewing.

It looked simple and elegant for a day in the city.

I would encourage moms to check out Borrow Baby Couture for that occasion that you need a beautiful dress to make your little girl feel special.

Grandparents do something different … gift this to your grandchild … it is unique…

Borrow Baby Couture.

I was not compensated for this review. All opinions are my own. I freely experienced the Borrow Baby Couture service for my review.

What are you doing for Grandparents Day!

Happy Grandparents Day!

I came across this blog post about grandparent bonding and it reminded me that today is Grandparents Day!

Fortunately for us, everyday is grandparents day in our house!

I really believe that it is the responsibility of the grandparents to remain as close as they can with their grandchildren.

By that, I mean staying in touch, making phone calls and planning visits.

I have witnessed families where grandparents feel they should be “kowtowed” to, in my opinion this does nothing to encourage a loving, supportive relationship between grandparent and grandchild.

So if you are a grandparent ….today is a day to celebrate.

Do this anyway you wish but include your grandchildren in your own special way!

Win a Back to School Gift from Hallmark!

There is nothing like little surprises and my grandchild loves them as much as I do.

Hallmark Cards has just the cutest items to surprise your child during lunchtime.

Many years ago, when my own girls were young, I was working and left home before my girls got up for school. I tried very hard to somehow connect with them prior to their leaving   for school or while they were in school.

I always left them breakfast and for lunch I would use a cookie cutter to shape their sandwiches into “heart” shapes. Every now and then I would leave a handwritten note.

Then, when they both went to “sleep away” camp I had to depend on “snail” mail to deliver, cards, letters and packages. It was fun choosing from companies that specialized in camp baskets designed for kids away from home, who were not allowed to have candy and food items in their cabin….not easy!

As school reopens….I find myself along with my daughter trying to make lunch not only healthy, but interesting and fun. It is an opportunity to share a moment during the day to say something special to a sweet little girl starting out in the world.

Here are some of the fun “Back to School” Hallmark items that I found to help make my grandchild’s lunch a memorable moment of her day at school.

Enter the contest below if you would like to win these items in a Back-to-School Gift Pack from Hallmark!

 

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I get to give one Back-to-School Gift Pack to one of you! To enter, tweet the following and leave me a comment letting me know you did:

Tweet “@LoretteLavine I want to win the @Hallmark Back to School Gift pack.

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“Toast Tuesday”

My “toast” today is to kids’ lunches…the parents that make them and to The Stir.

“Hey Mom…Whats for lunch?”

Labor Day Weekend is all but over… happily, we have already made a school lunch for the first day….it is in the fridge!

Just came home from dinner with friends….the “last summer supper” as we like to call it, I opened up my FB page and saw this wonderful video with “My Plate” Guidelines.

In honor of  tomorrow, the first day of school, I knew it had to be shared. The link contains some  fab school lunch ideas and the guidelines are the easiest.

Kids deserve something delicious, healthy and interesting at lunch don’t you think?

These are not even over the top ideas.

Just have a little fun and be creative or let the recipes be creative for you.

What are you serving for lunch on the first day back to school?

School lunches and snack time stress me out. There. I said it. We are about to go back to school, and at my house, that means five days a week, for my two kids, I need to pack lunches that consist of more than just turkey thrown in between two slices of bread, and snacks other than pretzels. I know I can be more creative than that, and I truly want my kids to eat better than that. Plus, I am really into following the new MyPlate Guidelines, which recently replaced the food pyramid I grew up with but never paid any attention to to help make sure my kids learn to eat balanced meals.

via White House Chef Schools Us on Healthy Lunches VIDEO | The Stir.